Why Your ‘Weak-Tie’ Friendships May Mean More Than You Think
For nearly 10 years, I have spent my Monday evenings attending rehearsals for my amateur choir. Mondays are not my favourite days, (33) ____________, but by the end of the rehearsal, I usually feel energised. The singing does me good. So do the people.
There is no choir practice now, and won’t be for a long time. I miss it. In lockdown, I don’t feel short of affection or emotional support, but I do feel short of friendly faces and casual conversations. Another way of putting this is (34) ____________.
Scholars used to assume that an individual’s well-being depended mainly on the quality of relationships with close friends and family, (35) ____________, too.
One way to think about any person’s social world is that you have an inner circle of people whom you often talk to and feel close with, and an outer circle of acquaintances whom you see infrequently or briefly. Scientists named these categories “strong ties” and “weak ties”. Their central insight was (36) ____________ weak ties are more important to us than strong ones.
Scientists surveyed 282 Boston-based workers and found that most of them got their jobs through someone they knew. But only a minority got their job through a close friend; 84% got their job through another type of relationships – casual contacts (37) ____________. As researchers pointed out, the people (38) ____________ swim in the same pool of information as you do. We depend on friendly outsiders to bring us news of opportunities from beyond our immediate circles – and so the more of those acquaintances we have, the better.
Abut I don’t remember their names
Bthat I miss my weak ties
Cthat for new information and ideas
Dwhom you spend a lot of time with
Ewhom they saw only occasionally
Fbut it has turned out that quantity matters
Gand I often arrive in a bad mood
Hwhom you have never met before